If you want a reliable way to reduce your confidence, motivation, and self-esteem, comparing yourself to others is a great way to do it!
It is human nature to make these types of comparisons, as from the first day we are born, we learn and develop through imitating others.
However, this doesn’t mean that comparisons are healthy to our self-esteem
In fact, if left unchecked, there are challenges that occur when you compare yourself to others and if you do ever find yourself doing this, there are several important factors to consider.
For instance, everyone has a different starting point. You might be just learning to play chess, yet your friend has been playing since childhood.
You cannot compare progress, results, or success unless the starting points are the same, and they never are. We all have a different skills and abilities. Some people are great at strategic thinking, others more creative. Some people naturally have amazing hand-eye coordination, others have a natural knack for music or maths. Again, different starting points.
We have vastly different resources available including time, energy, money and support of friends or family. If you want to play the violin and your mother is a wealthy concert violinist, you have a huge advantage over someone born into a financially-challenged family that has no experience in music.