Many people wish they felt more secure about their abilities on the job. In other words, they're looking for increased self-confidence when it comes to performing the work, dealing with co-workers, and handling tough situations.
If you're one of these people, you're not alone. So, what can you do to feel more self-assured about your job?
First, remember that you are not your job.
That is, if you make a mistake at work, this does not mean that you are stupid, worthless, or that you're in the wrong position. It's all too easy to take mistakes personally, seeing them as a reflection of your true person rather than for what it is: a mistake.
Even though it may not always appear so, everyone makes mistakes occasionally. The best way to deal with a mistake is to own up to it right away and present a solution. This shows that you are honest, and by presenting ways to fix the problem, your manager can send you on your way to deal with the issue. Acting honestly and straightforwardly is always the best option for both you and for the company.
Another common issue is feeling insecure when it comes to coworkers.
Many people feel that they do not fit in, are not part of the “clique”, are unsure how to handle conflict, or have an overbearing co-worker or manager that they don't know how to communicate with. Any of these feelings can wear down your self-esteem.
You may feel you have nothing to offer the group, whether socially or in the workplace, you avoid conflict, and may allow others to walk over you.
If socialization is a problem, it will require you to step out of your comfort zone a little.
This doesn’t mean you need to jump right in with a large company gathering; rather, take it slowly by opening conversations with one or two co-workers. Chances are you'll have something in common. Asking questions about the other person is always a great way to go; just avoid questions with simple yes or no answers.
When dealing with conflict resolution and difficult employees, learning some proven communication techniques may be necessary. Consider attending a course or reading up on conflict resolution and dealing with difficult people.
In the meantime, remember that the overbearing person likely has a lot of insecurities as well, and these are what can cause the behaviour.
In the midst of conflict, do your best to avoid being pulled into argumentative situations. Don't reward the other person's behaviour by getting upset or immediately backing down. If necessary, say you'll continue the conversation when everyone has had a chance to cool down.
Dealing with negative coworkers is never fun. Try and remember that your self-worth is not dependent on the co-worker's approval, even if that person is your manager.
It could be you're feeling unsure about your skills. This one is pretty easy - learn more!
Many companies offer continuing education options, will pay for qualifications, or offer professional development in-house. Whatever your employer offers, take advantage.
If your company does not have this option, find some good books on the subject. Ask your colleagues for suggestions, or if you're a member of any type of professional group, seek advice there as well. Many of your peers will have good suggestions on what's worth looking into.
Finally, give yourself some challenges. One great way to build your self-confidence at work is to take on a special project or extra work. If you choose something you feel passionate about or something within your specialism, you can show yourself and your colleagues that you are able to produce results. Even if you fail, you're showing initiative and willingness by taking on special projects. Knowing that you put yourself out there, rather than sitting on the sidelines, can be a great confidence booster. And the same can be said for when it goes well.